How often do you use screen time restrictions as a consequence for bad behavior? When your kids act out, your first reaction may be to deny them access to things they love the most. For many children, that is technology.

As I’ve researched this topic, I’ve learned from some child behavior experts that using screen time restriction as a punishment–also called e-disciplilne–is not considered a good or effective strategy. This video from Dr. Nicole explains the reasoning behind that thought. In a nutshell she recommends using “Free Time” as the reward for completing tasks that need to be done before play time or free time. During free time, your child should be allowed to do what they want, including watching videos or playing video games. Of course, you should set screen time limitations ahead of this, so that they know exactly how much time they will get.

It’s important that you set consistent daily or weekly limits that apply regardless of good or bad behavior. If you feel you must take a screen, use a short-term consequence that is related to the screen use. For instance, if a phone is used in a forbiggen place, hold it for the evening and return it the next day.

Try to use consequences instead that connect to the misbehavior. Taking a phone away for breaking curfew is not a logical connection. Making your child’s curfew very early the next time they go out is. If the infraction is related to screen time, then it may make sense to use a screen time restriction as a natural consequence. Whatever the consequence is, your goal is to help your child understand that consequences are a way for them to learn to manage their time and behavior, not just a punishment.

I’ve worked with parents who have chosen to use screen time restrictions as a consequence for bad behavior. Sometimes it works, but most of the time, the battles either escalate or continue returning.

Do you take away screens as punishment? Why or why not?

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