Whether you are a parent of a 5, 15, or 25-year-old, it’s always good to take a hard look at how you are doing at parenting. This year, I want to be sure that there are some things my kids really, really know, and in order for them to know these things, I will have to be intentional about doing my part to speak these truths into them.
You are fearfully and wonderfully made.
This quote from the Bible emphasizes that each person is unique, special, and beautiful. I want Cristi, TJ, and Holli to know that from the words I speak, and from how I treat them. Of course, I’ve been trying to do this for 30 years as a parent, but this year, I want to be very aware and intentional about letting them know this.
Someday you will change the world.
Whether it’s their corner of the world, or a a bigger sphere of influence, I want my kids to know they are influencers and that I believe in them and what they are going to do to make a difference in the lives of others.
We are always here for you.
As parents, we want our kids to know that we will always love them, no matter how much they may mess up. Nothing they can do will change that, even though we may not always give them what they think they want. We want our kids to know that we are their safe place.
We are proud of you.
Ted and I will continue to say this to our kids often. We are proud of who they’ve become, not just in their accomplishments. We are proud of them just because they are OUR kids, not just because of what they’ve achieved in their jobs, although of course we are proud of that too. My dad used to look me in the eyes and say those four words often, “I’m proud of you.” I truly believe that helps build a strong foundation of security in children.
We are letting you go.
We will never stop loving and supporting them, but we must let them go to live their lives. Your kids may not be on their own yet, but you can still let them go in a hundred different ways. This prepares them and YOU for their big jump out of the nest.
Mom and Dad, what do you want your kids to REALLY KNOW in 2018?
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