One of the hardest parts of being a sports mom was watching my kids experience failure at something they’d worked so hard to achieve.
It’s often painful for parents to watch their child’s growing-up process because that almost always includes watching their child’s failure.
When parents think about failure, they tend to think of it in a negative way. They see that failure is painful and causes emotional turmoil.
Lately, I’ve been struggling to do something that has failed several times. And the person who’s been coaching me through it encouraged me with these words:
You Fail Your Way to Success.
Although those words encouraged me, the fact remains: I do not like failure. Neither do you or your child, I’m sure. But I’ve learned a lot while watching my children struggle through failure as they played sports to know that there’s a lot to be said for not always having immediate success.
Here’s why your children (and YOU) will find that failure is the key to success:
Failure Breeds Creativity
Nothing motivates someone to be creative like failure. Without it, people would settle for the first thing they try or do. In my case, I’ve re-worked a project two times and am now going for a third–all in the attempt to succeed at it. Failure forces you to try new things, and to dig deep for answers.
Failure will push your child to try new ways to work on their skills and new mental shifts to take to the game. Failure will move your child from status quo to excellence because they will be looking for new ways to improve.
When one fails and keeps trying, they gain experience. When your child goes through something and can walk away with firsthand experience, it helps them to develop a deeper understanding for life.
If your child succeeded the first time at everything they undertook, they would miss out on the experience that comes with falling and getting back up again, over and over.
Failure will show your child their shortcomings and hopefully motivate them to correct the errors. Michael Jordan, one of the greatest basketball players ever, failed to make his high school basketball team. When asked it, He explains: I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.
Failure Fosters Courage
Many people are afraid to face risk, because they don’t want to fail. They’d prefer to not rock the boat.
When experiencing failure, it’s very easy to just give up.
Your child may wonder,“What’s the use? I’ll never make the team (or the starting lineup, or get that position).”
It will take courage and determination for your child to keep trying. Take J.K Rowling, author of the Harry Potter series. Rowling received tons of rejection letters over a five year span before finding a publisher for one of the most successful book (and movie) series ever.
It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.— J.K. Rowling
If your child is struggling with failure and you are not sure how to help, I would like to help you. I’m a life coach for sports parents. Please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org for a free coaching session.