The list of things for parents to be afraid of is very, very long. And the older our kids get, the longer the list gets.
Research shows that parents fear:
- That they are not good enough or doing a good job.
- That their kids are not going to make it to or through college or be able to find a job.
- The danger of strangers.
- That their kids will be bullied.
- Accidents, injuries, and illnesses.
- Financial stresses and worries.
I’m sure that you could add to that list.
Parental fears are normal, but you must learn how to manage them so that they do not hurt your children. Fear-based parenting also puts all your focus on what you don’t want—which means you’re actually more likely to create it.
How do you know if you are parenting from fear? If you find yourself thinking or saying any of these things on a regular basis, you are letting fear rule your parenting:
- I’m worried, afraid that my child will…
- I just don’t want my child to…
- What if (the worst thing that could happen) happens?
If your words or thoughts focus on what could go wrong, what-ifs, or what you want to protect your child from, you may be parenting from fear more than you realize.
A mindset of fear from parents can be contagious. Kids are likely to focus on fears too if they see that type of lifestyle modeled in their home. I’ve seen some of the fears I voiced start to surface in my grown kids. Worries about money was one of the main ones. I’m sad to say that my kids struggle with the same problem and I know that I contributed to that.
But you do not have to pass on fears to your children; you can stop parenting in fear. You CAN conquer parental anxiety!
If you struggle with fears and anxiety, I’d like to invite you to attend my next webinar this Thursday, 3 pm. EST. It will be recorded so if you can’t make it, you can listen to it later. Learn more about how to sign up for the webinar here.