What do your kids need to hear often? Whether you are a parent of a 5, 15, or 25-year-old, it’s always good to take a hard look at how you are doing at parenting. This year–and every year–here are some things that your kids need to know. Be intentional about speaking these truths into your children:
You are wonderfully made.
This quote from the Bible emphasizes that each person is unique, special, and beautiful. Your kids need to know this from the words you speak, and from how you treat them. Don’t try to make them into something that they aren’t. Appreciate their skills and personalities for who they are.
Someday you will change the world.
Whether it’s their corner of the world, or a bigger sphere of influence, tell your kids that they are influencers and that you believe in them. Talk about how they can make a difference in the lives of others.
We are always here for you.
Tell your kids to know that you will always love them, no matter how much they may mess up. Nothing they can do will change that, even though you may not always give them what they think they want. You want your kids to know that you are their safe place.
We are proud of you.
Ted and I continue to say this to our grown kids often. We are proud of who they’ve become, not just in their accomplishments. Tell your kids that you are proud of them just because they are YOUR kids, not just because of what they’ve achieved or how they’ve performed, although of course you can be proud of that too. I truly believe that helps build a strong foundation of security in children.
We are letting you go.
You should never stop loving and supporting your kids, but you must let them go to live their own lives. Your kids may not be on their own yet, but you can still let them go in a hundred different ways. This prepares them and YOU for their big jump out of the nest.
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